I was so touched to receive this picture and note from my dear friend Rebecca Lee Haworth. She has a teenager who has been struggling. The fact that her teen had a moment of pause to think that his struggle may have purpose is the WHY behind my writing this book.
I want every heart, young and old, to know that they are not alone. We all struggle with something. And what if our struggles are an actual gift, like a key, waiting to unlock ourselves out of our caged hearts and minds so we can be free to be the person we were made to be - full of purpose, love, compassion, hope and more?!
I would love if you would join me to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
May we pray over every struggling heart. May each person see beyond the struggle and into the purpose the struggle carries with it.
May we pray for this teen, and all the teens out there who are struggling. May they move through this season of struggle and thrive in life, uncaged and free to be who they were made to be.
And may the same be true for the rest of us too💕🙏💕
With love and hope,
Shawn
P.S. My friend and her teenager asked to be identified in this post so to help in letting go of the stigma around mental health. I am so grateful for their strength and transparency🙏💕💪💝
The Struggle Is Real
We went out for pizza the other night to celebrate my being cancer free and my youngest drew this pic. I love his beautiful, creative mind💝
The words he wrote rang true to what my heart and mind experienced leading up to hearing there was no evidence of cancer.
You see, on this side of cancer there still is a struggle I experience. Living as a survivor of ACC, I have to walk, like other cancer survivors, with the unknown if the cancer will be back. When I started having new nerve pains and pressure behind my eye, I didn’t want to think the worst, yet having a cancer that travels nerves, I naturally became uncertain if the cancer was back on the other side of my face. And many of you may not know but ACC has cost people in our ACC community their eye, ear, jaw line, etc. I only had to lose my palate. Other ACC survivors walk with a outward physical deformity while I get I walk with an internal one. Yet last week I played the story in my head that maybe I too would have to lose part of my face someday to remain cancer free. Currently that isn’t my story, but I did have a friend who did have to lose her eye this week to be ACC free.
There are cancer survivors that walk beside us in life everyday. Some have lost breasts, eyes, ears, jaws, a lung, palates, legs, arms, skin, thyroid, have had a hysterectomy, etc. And many may not have lost a physical part of themselves but they too lost the security of that little lump or nerve pain as being nothing. The hope of remaining cancer free is there yet the reality that we have to take seriously the possibility of it coming back is real.
I share this with you, not for sympathy or pity, but for us to grow in empathy and compassion for others.
It may not be cancer, maybe it is the fear of a loved one cheating again, taking another drink, getting high one more time, making another bet, etc.
The struggle is real.
Yet I invite you to join me to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
May we not live in this fearful place. It is a cloud that hovers over us inhibiting our light to shine forth in our days. May we instead invite God into the equation. May we believe that this struggle is not without purpose but a transformative time to help us grow in faith and love. May we trust that we are slowly unfolding into the person we were made to be through this trying time. And may we grow in empathy and compassion for others whose struggle is real.
With love and hope,
Shawn
Summer Fun
Sometimes all you need is pure summer fun to fuel the soul.☀️🙏💝
NED = No Evidence of Disease!!!
Just got the call...no evidence of cancer🙏💝🎉 didn’t ask what the symptoms may be but right now I don’t care. Just thankful and ready to celebrate with my family💞
Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers💝 Please keep those who received other results in mind every day. We all know someone fighting, let’s turn our love their way now. 💕💕💕
Hugs, love and gratitude to all of you🙏
Life's Detours
Yesterday I was driving with my kids and we hit a detour. As we took the detour we kept going but there were no signs directing us for a while to help guide us along our way.
At first I felt inconvenienced by this detour but after the second detour sign, my kids and I started turning it into an adventure. We weren’t sure where we were or where we’d end up.
At one point one of my kids said, “put on the GPS.” My response? “No, this is what it was like before GPS. We will get there. It may not be the quickest way but it will be an adventure together!”
As we approached this sign - which happened to be the last detour sign - we were laughing. We had “Nowhere to go, nowhere to be.” (Those are lyrics from a Kenny Chesney song I sing a lot to my kids to remind them (and me) to slow down and just enjoy this ride we are in together.) We eventually found our way back to familiar roads and gave thanks for the detour.
I just left my MRI in Boston. As I laid there on the table praying, this detour sign and my experience with my children yesterday played through my head.
Yes, today is a detour and we will not know the next turn right away. My initial response at having an MRI was fear based. Yet now as faith leads me again, I can see that, as we did yesterday, we don’t have to fear this journey but can turn this into an adventure we experience together.
I share this with you in case you too have been taking on a detour. I invite you to join me to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
And may we move past the inconvenience of this detour and instead find joy around each turn along the way with those beside us. And I pray that when we find our way back to familiar roads, we can give thanks for this detour we are on🙏
With love and hope,
Shawn
Seek the Sun
I love moments like this. To watch the sun peek through the tall trees and give light to the path on my morning walk.
Right now I have some tall trees in my life, my parents are moving to another state and recently I have had some nerve pain in my face and pressure behind my left eye. I went to the doctor this week and I have to get an MRI next week to rule out a reoccurrence. Once again I find myself walking a new path with an unknown destination. What I find I have to continuously do is talk myself into seeking God in this. He is the sun shining between the trees. His love, care and grace comfort me. He is able to shine light into the darkness, warm the cold places and help me see there is something beyond these obstacles.
Yes, the unknown and uncertainty are there yet I refuse to give them my heart and mind...yet they try to take them frequently. Instead I need to....
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
And lean on the lessons I learned through my walk with cancer. They weren’t just true then, they hold true for any struggle, including my current ones- and yours.
I share this with you in case you too have tall trees that are blocking your view in life. I invite you to join me to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
May we seek the sun, aka God, who is shining a light through these trees and into our hearts. May we absorb His love and may it give us peace through this time. And even though our struggles may be different, may we know we never need to walk this path alone.
With love and hope,
Shawn
"Our Challenges Have Purpose"
Yesterday was my youngest child’s birthday and this morning there are lots of Lego creations being made. My youngest just completed this. When he showed it to me he said, “Look Mom, it was challenging, but our challenges have purpose.”🤣😂🤣
Guess our words do sink into their hearts💝🙏😊
I invite you to join me to take a moment to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
And realize the power of our words. May we choose to speak the truth in love into each other’s hearts today, especially into our children’s. For as I’ve learned, they do repeat what we say so let’s aim for the words we speak be ones worth them repeating.
With love and hope,
Shawn
Camp Secret Lake
Every year my family gathers for “camp” at my parents home. My three siblings , our spouses and our eleven kids get together. We spend the week at “camp”, fishing, swimming, kayaking, paddle boarding, tubing, playing cards, eating (lots of eating), playing games, etc. I love gathering with my family and spending time together making memories.
Today is our last day of camp on Secret Lake. My parents will be moving in a month and the memories we made here will remain but the space we enjoyed them in will no longer be where we gather. We will continue “camp” every year yet it will be different in many ways.
I share this with you this morning because there are two life lessons I learned through my walk with cancer that I personally am leaning on a lot right now; There Is A Last Time for Everything and The End Is a New Beginning.
Knowing this was our last time together at my parents home in our hometown, I have been doing my best to absorb the time with everyone. Watching the little things like how my mom greets the kids every morning for breakfast, the cousins run off the dock into their tubes together, the line of people on shore or the dock fishing, my dad playing cards with the kids, how we gather (all 21 of us) around the table for grace and meals together and how we end our nights together watching a movie or playing a game.
I want to absorb it all and in the same breath I am doing my best to trust that just because this is ending, there is something new on the horizon for our family. I don’t want to pretend this is easy. It is a time of transition, especially considering I live in my hometown about five minutes away from my parents currently. I will miss them, this space, this place and my family gathered here.
I am thankful for the lessons I have been given and yet see how they not only helped me through cancer but how I need to apply them in life after cancer too.
I am sharing this with you because I am not sure what you are experiencing in life currently but in case you too are going through a transitional time, I offer for you to join me to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
May we focus on being present and absorb the little moments in our lives that make up the big picture. May we capture the memories with our loved ones in our hearts. And if we are coming to the end of one thing, may we trust that God is doing something new - and it may be even better than what we know now.
With love and hope,
Shawn
Happy 4th
This week I am with my entire family, my parents, three siblings, their spouses and our combined eleven kids. As we celebrate the Fourth of July together, I am reminded of the history of where our family comes from and what makes us the family we are today; loving each other for who we are within.
Happy 4th of July from our family to yours❤️
🇨🇮 🇮🇹 🇬🇧 🇮🇷 🇩🇪 🇵🇭 🇫🇷 🇨🇦
With love, gratitude, and appreciation,
Shawn
Divine Appointment #5
Divine appointments are moments where God is speaking into my heart, whether it is an interaction with someone, or through a book, song, etc. In my new book, Our Struggles Have Purpose, there are ten divine appointments I share and this is number five.
I share this with you because it was fourteen years ago today I said “I do” to Stephen and we danced to our wedding song that I mention here💝
Who knew then all we’d go through?
On our wedding day, I didn’t give it much thought to the readings that we read. Yet when I went back to check a few years ago, like many others, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, was one of our readings. Now when I listen to the wisdom in those words...
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
Love is humble.
Love is selfless.
Love is slow to anger.
Love does not keep record of wrongs.
Love celebrates truth.
Love protects.
Love trusts.
Love hopes.
Love perseveres.
Love never fails.
I see how Stephen has lived out love towards me all these years, through the valleys, plateaus and on the mountain tops of marriage. And I do my best (though imperfectly) to live out this truth towards him every day.
It’s been quite a journey the past fourteen years and I couldn’t be more grateful for Stephen remaining by my side, and holding my hand, every step of the way.
I share this with you today to remind you that there are divine appointments waiting for us every day. God has orchestrated them to speak truth into our hearts. Sometimes we are ready to hear them, like that day in Boston, and other times, it may be a seed planted that one day grows into something, like the words from the reading on my wedding day.
I invite you to join me to...
Phase. Breathe. Pray.
May we open our eyes and ears for divine appointments coming our way today. May they be a reminder that God is with us and loves us.
With love and hope,
Shawn